Imagine the woman who stands over you in your fantasies – who is she? Is she an aggressive and sadistic femme fatale? Is she laughing at you? Perhaps she’s a stern and formal disciplinarian – a boss or colleague? She might have a loving, nurturing side, gently correcting you rather than turning the screw.
She could be having a lot of fun toying with you, or taking your formal punishment very, very seriously. She might be furious, aroused, playful, strict…out of reach, or intoxicatingly close. She uses glamour and eroticism to overpower you. She is using you for her own pleasure.